I am acting like a mom rather a wife?

I am currently separated from my husband, the counselor says I am his mother not his wife. Unfortunately I did those same things out of love, and right into another woman. I hate to say it but as I was recently told, no man wants to be married to his mother, no man wants to sleep with his mother. You need to learn to be you, not "MOM". That is what I'm having to do. Together you can work it out.