Is it selfish to not give up a kidney because you might die from it?

It is not fair at all to place that type of burden on a 13 year old child who has already done what she could to help her sister. In a way it is child abuse. The mother is pressuring her child when the mother alone should be handling decisions, not a child. Anna should be being a child & only that. While there are usually safe kidney operations, there is always the chance that you can have anesthesia reactions or blood clots post op. One or both kids could die. A mother should care equally about her children but the stress of the illness has gotten to the mother in a bad way. Surgery is very safe but things can happen. I had experienced one young healthy patient going for a simple inguinal hernia repair who never came back from the OR. It was anesthesia death...it can & does happen. That girl should ask the courts to appoint her a lawyer to protect her rights & not be forced to do something she doesn't want to do. When her mother slapped her she should have called the police & gotten out of that home situation until things cooled down. Maybe other relatives would have been kinder to her. (Where was her father during all this?)